isn’t it funny when people give advices not realizing that they’re actually telling these things to themselves???… the essence of self-talk!
i call it psyching-up… trying to tell people what they you should do while convincing yourself that you sound believable, and with much exerted effort to be credible. yes, i have done it, and it’s has both negative and positive effects to me. one positive thing about it is that my pronouncements turned out to be some points that i can ponder on. the negative effect is that i’m beginning to be aware when people is ding their own self-talk… hahaha! 😉
A Credo for my Relationships
You and I are in a relationship which I value and want to keep. Yet each of us is as a separate person with unique needs and the right to meet those needs.
When you are having problems meeting your needs, I will try to listen with genuine acceptance, in order to facilitate your finding your own solutions instead of depending on mine. I also will try to respect your right to choose your own beliefs and develop your own values, different though they may be from mine.
However, when your behavior interferes with what I must do to get my own needs met, I will tell you openly and honestly how your behavior affects me, trusting that you respect my needs and feelings enough to change the behavior that is unacceptable to me. Also, whenever some behavior of mine is unacceptable to you, I hope you will tell me openly and honestly so I can try to change my behavior.
At those times, when we find that either of us cannot change to meet the other’s needs, let us acknowledge that we have a conflict and commit ourselves to resolve each such conflict without either of us resorting to the use of power or authority to win at the expense of the other’s losing. I respect your needs, but I also must respect my own. So let us always strive to search for a solution that will be acceptable to both of us. Your needs will be met, so will mine – neither will lose, both will win.
I this way, you can continue to develop as a person through satisfying your needs, and so can I. Thus, ours can be a healthy relationship in which both of us can strive to become what we are capable of being and we can continue to relate to each other with mutual respect, care, love and peace.
Teach me, my Lord, to be sweet and gentle in all the events of life, in disappointments, in the thoughtlessness of those I trusted, in the unfaithfulness of those on whom I relied. Let me put myself aside, to think of the happiness of others, to hide my little pains and heartaches, so that I may be the only one to suffer from them. Teach me to profit by the suffering that comes across my path. Let me so use it that it may make me patient, not irritable. That it may make me broad in my forgiveness, not narrow, haughty and overbearing. May no one be less good for having come within my influence. No one less pure, less true, less kind, less noble for having been a fellow traveler in our journey toward Eternal Life. As I go my rounds from one distraction to another, let me whisper from time to time, a word of love to Thee. May my life be lived in the supernatural, full of power for good, and strong in its purpose of sanctity. AMEN!
got this “title” as i explore this account for the first time….
yep, hello world! …. and hello philippines? 😉
oh well, this is one of the many blog accounts i created and hopefully this one (and my friendster blog) will be updated.
simba ko anay… later 😉